“A bird sitting on a tree is never afraid of the branch breaking
because her trust is not on the branch but on her own wings.”
My younger self always put trust in the branch. I counted on that branch not to break. My happiness, self-esteem and confidence depended upon the branch where I was perched. And every time a branch broke so did I ~ my heart, hopes and confidence.
Without inner direction and knowing who I truly was, I perched upon many branches that eventually gave way~ law school, friends, boyfriends and career 'pivots'. I was establishing an identity based upon the world outside of myself. Let's be honest, I didn't know who I was.
Fast forward, In 2018 my final branch broke. Little did I know I was about to embark on one of my biggest life transitions and it would completely change me deeply and permanently. I was going through a divorce. What baffled me was how so many people had gone thorough divorce, yet no one I heard of actually died from it. I felt like I was dying.
Divorce was my near-death experience. Not just because it was the death of a decade long relationship or because it felt so painful, but because that huge part of me that identified with everything outside of myself was on its way out - basically dying.
Navigating the death of my old self and later rebuilding my new self was quite a process and took a village - my life coach, my dearest women friends, my family and every other soul that I was in contact with during that period in my life. Everyone had an impact on the rebuild.
Today I trust my own wings and no longer put my trust in the various branches outside of me. I coach other women going through their divorce transition. Why? Because your divorce experience is the gateway to understanding who you truly are and what you deeply want. It's the key component to building you. From the inside out,
Email me for a complimentary 30 minute consultation to see if we are the right fit for each other. I look forward to hearing from you!
Holly is a Certified Wayfinder Life Coach through the acclaimed Martha Beck Institute Life Coach Program. She has been teaching and counseling teens and young adults since 2002 and holds a Masters Degree in Educational Counseling with an emphasis in Career Development.